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Building resilience for everyday calm and confidence improves your health and your life

Building Resilience for Everyday Calm and Confidence

In today’s fast-paced world, resilience is a skill for personal and professional effectiveness that cannot be ignored.

But what exactly does building resilience entail, and how can it lead to a sense of calm and confidence in your everyday life? 

As a certified HeartMath coach/mentor/trainer specializing in stress and well-being, I’m here to guide you through understanding and enhancing your resilience, ensuring you feel empowered regardless of what life or work presents. 

Here’s HeartMath’s definition of resilience, which will help you better understand its holistic health benefits and its influence on your confidence in managing life and work

“Resilience is the capacity to prepare for, recover from, and adapt in the face of stress, challenge, and adversity.”

Your Four Domains of Resilience

Resilience is not just about bouncing back from tough times; it’s about thriving in the face of challenges. It encompasses four key domains:

  • Physical Resilience: Maintaining your physical health and energy levels.
  • Emotional Resilience: Managing your emotions and maintaining a positive outlook.
  • Mental Resilience: Keeping your mind sharp and focused.
  • Spiritual Resilience: Staying connected to your values and purpose.

Resilience Is Keeping Your Energy Charged

Think of your resilience as the amount of energy you have stored in an inner battery. It’s what energy you have available to use physically, mentally, and emotionally.

When fully charged, you have a high level of resilience, giving you the capacity to remain calm, think clearly, and be in control of your emotions so you don’t overreact.

But when your battery is running low, everything feels more difficult. Emotional stress is one of the biggest energy drainers, and when it becomes chronic, it can negatively affect your health and well-being.

Heart-Brain Communication Is Essential

The heart-brain connection is a vital component of resilience. The heart has its own intricate nervous system, often referred to as the “heart brain.” This system communicates with the brain in your head, influencing decision-making, creativity, and self-regulation.

Scientific studies have shown that the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart. These signals can impact our emotions, cognitive functions, and overall health. When the heart and brain are in sync, or in a state of coherence, it leads to improved emotional well-being, enhanced cognitive performance, and greater resilience.

By focusing on techniques that enhance heart-brain communication, such as deep breathing, mindfulness, and positive emotions, you can boost your resilience. These practices help to align the heart and brain, leading to a more balanced and resilient state of being. 

As you cultivate this connection, you’ll find it easier to navigate stress, adapt to change, and maintain a sense of calm and confidence in your daily life.

Heart Rate Variability (HRV) Fuels Longevity

Did you know Heart Rate Variability (HRV) which measures the variation in time between each heartbeat, is a key indicator of your physiological resilience and well-being? A high HRV is associated with a greater ability to handle stress and adapt to change.

Scientific research reveals that the higher the HRV the more resilient one is to stress. By focusing on practices that enhance HRV, such as deep breathing, mindfulness, and regular exercise, you can significantly boost your resilience and longevity, an optimal mind-body functioning state.

Emotional Regulation Increases Vitality

Your emotional state directly impacts your resilience. Positive emotions like gratitude and compassion can boost resilience, while negative emotions like anger and frustration can deplete it.

Learning to regulate your emotions is crucial for maintaining coherence and resilience. By practicing mindfulness and emotional intelligence, you can manage your emotional responses, contributing to your overall vitality and well-being.

Strategies to Bolster Resilience

To increase your resilience, consider these strategies:

  • Preparation: Start your day with a clear intention and use techniques to set a positive tone.
  • Shift and Reset: Quickly recover from stress reactions by shifting to a more coherent state.
  • Sustain: Maintain your resilience throughout the day with regular practices and techniques.

Heart-Focused Breathing Technique

One simple technique to enhance resilience is Heart-Focused Breathing:

  • Focus your attention on your heart area.
  • Breathe slowly and deeply, imagining your breath flowing in and out of your heart.
  • Aim for a rhythm of about five seconds for each inhale and exhale.

Ensuring A Calm and Steady Journey

Building resilience is an ongoing journey, but with the right tools and techniques, it’s a journey that can lead to greater calm and confidence in your everyday life. 

If you’re ready to explore how resilience coaching can transform your life, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can develop a personalized plan to enhance your resilience and help you thrive in any situation.


Allison Adams is an international wellness coach, facilitator, and consultant dedicated to transforming lives and shaping the future of wellness hospitality. As the creator of the Discover Well-Being Podcast and the Thriving Leader Movement, Allison guides women, executives, and hotel brands in embracing conscious, sustainable lifestyles and leadership. Her transformational coaching and online and in-person events empower individuals and organizations to thrive Connect via LinkedIn.